Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
We all define beauty in our own way. This is especially true when defining beauty for ourselves. We each have our own style and opinions on what we think look good. I'll give you an example. I have naturally curly hair. Most people are surprised to hear that since I never wear my hair curly. Since I graduated high school I have been blow drying my hair straight. I prefer it that way. I don't know how to style curly hair and I simply don't care for it on me. With that said, I've had both friends and strangers tell me that they like my hair with a natural wave to it. This usually happens when it's been too humid and my hair starts to curl. While others are admiring this, it's driving me crazy! I don't like the texture and I don't like how it feels. But apparently to some, it looks very attractive. So even though I know others like my hair curly, I always blow dry it straight. I do this because it matters more what I think. If I like the way I looks, it will be reflected in my positive attitude and confidence levels.
When I meet with clients, I keep this in mind. What matters most is not the conventional definition of beauty or the rules of fashion. What matters is the way that you define beauty for yourself. I want you to feel beautiful and confident every day. I work with my clients to achieve the best versions of themselves. When they do, they will beam with confidence and beauty.
I went out to dinner with my husband this past weekend to a fairly new and very cool place in the city. We were dressed up as was everyone else in the place. I happened to notice a couple sitting near us that stood up to leave. Her husband began to walk behind her and she stopped, let him pass and started walking behind him. She did not walk with an air of confidence. She walked behind him as if she wanted to not be noticed. She wanted to be an afterthought. There was a small part of me that wanted to walk right over to her and say "pick your head up, throw your shoulders back and walk with confidence!" I don’t know the reason why but everything about her demeanor screamed uncomfortable, intimidated and self-conscious. By contrast there were two girls sitting the next table over, when they stood up to leave they strutted out of the restaurant like they owned it. They were smiling, heads up, confidence beaming! And they looked gorgeous. But it had less to do with what they were wearing and more to do with how they wore it.
We can be our own worse critic. I know I am. It's easier to focus on what we need to improve than on what we have going for us. We think about the weight we need to loose, and the teeth we need whitened and the hair we need dyed! We focus on the wrinkles in the mirror and the bags under our eyes. We don't need someone else to critic us. We do a pretty good job of that on our own. But how often do we compliment ourselves or think "wow, I look great today". I'm sure it happens but not nearly as often. What if we did that more often? What if we could find a way to feel more confident? What if we could share that feeling with others? That's what I have attempted to do with this business. I want you own your style, your confidence and your beauty so that you can walk with that Beyoncé swagger every day.